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7 Frugal Date Suggestions

June 22, 2011 By MelissaB 7 Comments

Whether you are dating or married, one of the best ways to maintain closeness in your relationship is to have a date night. However, with the high cost of entertainment, dating can put a serious kink in your budget, but it does not have to. Here are some frugal date suggestions that will kindle your relationship and protect your wallet.

-Cook together. Dates don’t always have to entail a dinner and a movie. Consider making a meal together. My husband and I both love to cook and eat, so during our courtship we frequently cooked together. We tried new recipes and varied what we prepared. Sometimes we would make an economical stir-fry, while other times we bought crab legs from the grocery store and treated ourselves. We bought the crab legs on sale for $9.99; still much cheaper than a night out on the town, and we could talk while we cooked.

-Go to a free concert. If you live in a metropolitan area or near a college town, there is no shortage of free events. Take advantage of them and plan your date around the event. We attend blues festivals and food festivals as well as concerts in the park. They provide several hours of enjoyable entertainment for free.

-Rent a movie. Rent a movie or two from Redbox or the local library. Redbox only charges $1 per movie, and the local library may offer them for free or for a nominal fee for $1 or $2.

-Star gaze together. If you live in a rural area, take advantage of the darkness and put out a blanket on the ground and gaze at the stars together. My husband and I bought a constellation map and spent hours trying to identify all of the constellations. It’s also fun to watch shooting stars.

-Hike together. If you live somewhere with trails or hiking paths, take a hike together. It is free, and you can’t compete with the beautiful scenery.

-Have a picnic. In this modern society where we are trained to go, go, go, it seems simple to pack a meal and have a picnic somewhere, but you will appreciate the time to talk and just focus on one another. My husband and I frequently went to a local waterfall in the evenings and just talked. It was so refreshing to hear the water in the background, and the scenery was amazing.

-Grab a bite to eat during happy hour. Many restaurants offer ½ off appetizers between the hours of 3 and 5 and after 9 p.m. Plan to dine out during that time and enjoy some half-price appetizers. (This is fun to do sometimes; I went to grad school with a guy who would only take his dates out for half price appetizers. I am still amazed that he found girls to go out with him.)

If you go the traditional route of dinner and a movie for a date, you could spend upwards of $50 for two people for just a few hours of entertainment. Instead, try some of these frugal date suggestions or alternate expensive dates with more frugal dates. After all, the point of dating is to have fun and enjoy one anothers company, not spend as much money as you can. Enjoy!

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The Scales of Finance

May 11, 2011 By Shane Ede 1 Comment

Not to be confused with the scales that our friend Lady Justice carries around with her everywhere, the scales of finance are a bit different in function. To truly weigh something, using a scale, you load up one side of the scale with that which you want to weigh and then put weights of a known mass on the other side. When the scale is balanced, you count up the known mass weights and you’ve got the weight of the item(s) on the other side. Lady Justice, as the story goes, does this by weighing a persons crimes and adding the appropriate amount of punishment to the other side so that the Scales of Justice balance.

When we think about personal finance, there are those that are die-hard frugalers. There is no other way to save money, retire comfortably, or live, than by being frugal. The more frugal you are, the more you save, and the less you spend. Coupons are their best friends, as are black friday deals and places like farmers markets and flea markets.

There are also those that are the die-hard incomers. Skipping a latte isn’t for them. The only way to get ahead is to make more money while not spending any more. They’ll work three jobs to achieve levels of income that were previously unheard of and use that added income to pay off debt and save for retirement.

But, much like justice, the scale can pretty easily be tipped into unbalance. Frugaling, while a good idea, can only take you so far. Income increasing can only take you so far. Eventually, you’ll need to make a bit more money, or work less. The right way to do it is to strike a balance between the two. Cut your costs as much as you can, without going to extremes. Increase your income as much as you can, without going to extremes. Find a place where you can balance your financial life while still getting to live life and not be classified as a cheapskate work-a-holic.

Balancing the Scales of Finance

Create a budget. Know where your money is going (even if it’s going down the drain), and plan where you want it to go.
Cut costs. A little bit of frugal living isn’t going to hurt you. Drop cable T.V. You can replace it with Netflix, or books. Find other things that you can do without completely or cut usage of.
Analyze your finances. Use your budget to determine the inflow/outflow of your finances. How long to payoff your debts? Could it be accelerated greatly by taking on a second job? Maybe you only need a second job for 6 months to pay off a credit card.
Increase your income. There are other ways, besides taking on extra jobs, to increase your income. Prepare for, and then ask for a raise. Sell off stuff you no longer use. Find a way to get paid for hobbies you already do.
Don’t over-do it. Maintain focus on your end goal, but keep your sacrifices to a bearable level. All that extra income won’t do you any good if you burn out in 3 months because you’ve been working 80 hour weeks. And all the frugal in the world won’t do you any good if you burn out in 3 months because you’ve been manually separating the plys on your TP.

Don’t think that just because you do all of this once, that you’ll remain in balance forever either. At first, you will probably benefit from regular weekly or bi-weekly check-ups. As you get more comfortable with it all, you might be able to do it once a month. Much more infrequent than that and you’ll lose your focus and begin letting things slip. If that happens, pick up where you left off and continue on.

As you continue on, the Scales of Finance will become easier to balance. You’ll become better at it, and the scales will gain a little extra margin for error. It may seem hard now, but it does get easier. And, believe it or not, it can be fun.

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Couples; To Combine Finances or Not?

April 29, 2011 By Shane Ede 12 Comments

Married couples have been doing it for centuries. Combining their finances is just something they’ve always done. Call it tradition if you want. Call it necessity. Recently, it’s a tradition that has come under fire as being old and outdated. After all, the reason that the tradition exists is because it was rather usual for the woman in the marriage to stay home and be a homemaker while the husband went off to work and earned the money. Since the woman wasn’t contributing to the financial inflow, there was no reason for her to have her own account. What would she put in it?

But, with a new age, comes new standards. Now, it’s expected that a woman will enter the workforce (or, at least, the contingent workforce). And she’ll remain there even after marriage. Not only will she remain in the workforce, but there is a chance that she’ll bring more to the table financially than her husband. Suddenly, the decision to combine finances isn’t such an easy one. In fact, combining finances can lead to more arguments than keeping them separated, unless both parties are on the same page financially. The way I see it, there are three ways you can handle finances as a couple.

Combined accounts. (What we do.)

We came to the conclusion early on in our marriage that combining finances made the most sense for us. Neither of us made much more than the other, and we both brought about an equal amount of debt to the marriage. We combined and pay all of our bills and other expenses from one account. It makes it easier to balance, easier to pay, and avoids having to figure out how much each owes to what bill, or when/how to transfer money from one account to the bill pay account.

Combined account hybrid.

If you want the convenience of combined accounts, but still have a bit of an issue with purchasing things for each other. Or, just want a “me” account where you can purchase whatever you want, whenever, no questions asked, a combined hybrid set up might make the most sense. Combine all of your accounts, but open a new account in each of your names. Those accounts get a set (budgeted) amount deposited into them each month. Each account is completely hands off to the other partner. Spend it however you like, as long as the cash is in the account to cover what you spend.

Completely separate.

You don’t like the idea of combined accounts at all. They should be separate. Each of you keeps your own account and you either agree on who is paying which bill, or you create a third account that each of you deposits your share of the bills into and pay all bills from that account.

Which is right for you? I can’t say which is right, or which is wrong for you. It’s something that you need to sit down and discuss with your spouse/partner and decide on. I think that combined finances are easier, but with automated deposits and bill pay, the separate accounts could be made pretty easy as well. And, just because you settle on one way, doesn’t mean you can’t change it down the road. What I will say is that people are sometimes quick to judge based on the decision that you make. Are you too trusting by combining? Not trusting enough by leaving things separate? Perhaps your relationship is doomed if you don’t combine?

The truth of it is this: a majority of divorces have some root in money issues. Forcing yourselves into a money model that you don’t like won’t help with that statistic. Be open with each other about money. Be willing to discuss your finances, both separately and combined, and get yourselves on a path to a solid financial future. If you do that, it won’t matter which option you choose, it’ll be the right one.

photo credit: Will Folsom