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Did I Marry a Chauvinist? 7 Signs You’re Dealing with a Chauvinistic Man

December 5, 2024 By Teri Monroe Leave a Comment

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According to the Cambridge English Dictionary, a male chauvinist believes that he is superior to women and that women are naturally less important, intelligent, or able than men. This idea of chauvinism is a widely held belief in our societal culture and is more of a groupthink mentality. At one point in our history, this worldview was celebrated, but as women have gained more equality it has been assigned a negative connotation.

So, how do you know if your husband is a chauvinist? As a marriage progresses, sometimes we see a different side of our partners. Some of the behaviors that we see can be red flags, showing us our partner’s true beliefs and nature. Here are 10 signs that you’re dealing with a chauvinist.

1. He Doesn’t Appreciate You

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Chauvinists have fixed beliefs that are often associated with overt or covert depreciation of women. If it feels like you are not appreciated in your relationship, your husband may believe that it is your role to take care of him, your children, or the home. He may not think your contributions need any thanks. It’s important to note there are distinct differences between chauvinists and narcissists. Dr. David Hawkins explains the differences well on his podcast Mad in Love. Take a listen here…

2. He’s Threatened by Your Independence

Does your husband want to control what you do and where you go? He may believe that he owns you and your time as his wife. A male chauvinist may prioritize his own time over yours. This can contribute to a power imbalance in the relationship.

3. He Talks Down to You

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Does your husband belittle your intelligence? Wives of chauvinistic men may feel like they have to defer to their husbands and not appear more intelligent than them. In these situations, the husband believes that he is of special intelligence just because he is a man. While narcissists believe that they are always right, chauvinists feel that his intelligence stems from his manhood.

4. Your Success is Diminished

Maybe you just got a promotion at work and your husband isn’t thrilled. This may be because chauvinists believe that they should be the breadwinners and provide for their families. He may resent that you are less involved at home because of your career. You may even feel pressure to quit your job or take a position that is less demanding. Ultimately, a chauvinistic husband doesn’t see you as an equal partner.

5. He Has Very Traditional Values

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While there is nothing wrong with being a traditional wife, if your husband expects it from you he may be a chauvinist. He may model your marriage on how he was raised and the way his mother was treated in her marriage. While this may be fine for some women, if you want more of an equal distribution of roles in the marriage, a traditional role may not be for you.

6. Feminism is a Threat to Him

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If he is dismissive of any feminist ideas, he may be a chauvinist too. He might believe that where he is today is due to beliefs and any feminist ideas are a threat to his success. He may even say that feminists are chauvinistic themselves, putting down anyone who fights for gender equality. To him, feminists are trying to take over society.

7. He Handles All Your Finances

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If your husband is the only one making financial decisions, it could be a sign that he’s a chauvinist. He may believe that you can’t navigate the complexities of handling money. If you have no say in major decisions like buying a house or investments, you should discuss your involvement with your husband. More importantly, if he doesn’t share your finances with you at all, it is a major red flag.

Dealing with a Chauvinistic Man

If you want more from your marriage, here are tips to save your relationship. Just because your husband has a chauvinistic mindset, doesn’t mean that the relationship can’t evolve. Make yourself heard, and if he doesn’t respect your opinions it may be time to seek professional help.

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Has Cancel Culture Gone Too Far? A Look at Everything Cancelled in 2024

December 4, 2024 By Teri Monroe Leave a Comment

In 2024, more than just TV shows were canceled. As a society, when someone steps out of line we often “cancel” them to hold them accountable or publicly shame them. However, in the era of social media, we are quick to judge regardless of the facts. Instead of engaging in discourse when we have differing points of view, we silence other people’s opinions more frequently. Pew Research found that 14% of adults described cancel culture as a form of censorship and another 12% felt it was mean-spirited attacks on a person to cause them harm. That said, people and things are still being canceled in 2024, despite any feelings about our so-called “cancel culture.” Here’s a look at some things that have been canceled this year (so far).

1. Blake Lively

Blake Lively has received some heat during the filming and promotion of her latest movie “It Ends with Us.” She has been painted as out of touch by fans when she didn’t understand the gravity of the domestic abuse her character experienced. There also was obvious tension with her co-star and director Justin Baldoni. Lively said that she was caught off guard by all the negative comments she received online during the promotion of the movie.

As she traveled to promote the film, previous interviews also resurfaced where Lively seemed to be rude to the interviewer. Take a look at this clip below. It still isn’t clear if her career will fully bounce back after these controversies.

2. Jeffree Star and Shane Dawson

Old content of business partners Jeffree Star and Shane Dawson resurfaced showing bullying, manipulation, and racist remarks. Seeing this, many major retailers dropped Jeffree Star’s popular makeup line from their online and brick-and-mortar storefronts. Despite being canceled multiple times, the stars are fighting to make a comeback.

For influencers like Jeffree and Shane, this demonstrates the long-term impact of past behavior on one’s career, especially if you are in the public eye. What’s challenging is that there is little separation between private and public life for social media influencers. Fans expect access to every aspect of an influencer’s life. However, many influencers are beginning to draw boundaries when it comes to their private lives. Only time will tell if Jeffree and Shane return to their former glories.

3. Yeezy

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The brand Yeezy finally met its demise in 2024. Founder Kanye West’s anti-sematic remarks led to the cancelation of West’s partnership with Adidas. The shoe company has plans to sell the remaining Yeezy inventory through the end of 2024 on its digital platforms. They will not be sold in stores. West has struggled with bipolar disorder, but his comments were unacceptable, leading to the dismantling of his popular sportswear brand. This begs the question though, should cancel culture give second chances to individuals struggling with mental health?

4. Kyte Baby

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In January 2024, the internet boycotted the popular baby clothing brand Kyte Baby after an incident with an employee. An employee requested to work remotely while her newborn, whom she adopted, was in the NICU. The request was denied and she was forced to resign from her position. Founder Ying Liu quickly apologized for her mistake after the controversy went viral on TikTok. After an insincere scripted video that also received backlash, Liu posted a second apology video. While the brand has survived, many moms are still boycotting. This is an important lesson for brands that consumers expect company values to be upheld and they are constantly watching.

5. Kellogg’s Cereal

Kellogg’s has received heat this year for being tone-deaf. In February 2024 on CNBC’s Squak, CEO Gary Pilnick suggested that families consider “cereal for dinner” to combat rising food costs. While the company has been promoting eating cereal for dinner since 2022, the statement was met with criticism since many families are facing real challenges with food insecurity this year. A boycott quickly ensued.

Then again, in October, the company faced more scrutiny about the ingredients used in its products. Hundreds of protestors gathered outside Kellogg’s headquarters in Michigan to hold them accountable for the promise they made to remove artificial dyes from their foods. The company has managed to do this in Canada and other countries. In the United States, Kellogg’s cereals still contain both food dyes and chemical preservatives. Soon after, the hashtag #CancelKelloggs was trending and more people were calling to boycott the brand.

6. The Willy Wonka Experience

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You may be familiar with the viral Willy Wonka Experience letdown that happened in Glasgow. Many experiences like this have become popular within the last few years like the Friends Experience, the Ice Cream Museum, and more. This particular Willy Wonka Experience overpromised and undelivered. All of the event’s marketing was generated with AI and was far from what patrons actually experienced. A sparse warehouse with a few decorations was not the “ journey filled with delicious treats, enchanting adventures, and moments worth capturing” that attendees were told they’d see. The operation was quickly shut down and refunds were issued.

The Impact of Cancel Culture

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We are all used to celebrity scandals, but has cancel culture gotten out of hand? These are just a few examples of the impacts of cancel culture on people and brands. Consumers and fans are quick to shame, blame, and boycott companies and individuals who make mistakes. So, are apologies effective or second chances possible, or do the impacts of cancel culture permanently damage brand reputation and personal image? For many of these people and brands, the impact that cancel culture has had on their lives or businesses is irreversible.

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Are Your Devices Spying on You? The Truth About Being Tracked

December 3, 2024 By Teri Monroe Leave a Comment

Are your devices spying on you? The answer is yes. Your devices are full of your personal information and, oftentimes, your user data is bought and sold by third parties. In reality, your data is a goldmine of information about you and your habits. The rate at which we produce data is shocking too. According to Edge Delta’s research, the average person produces 1.7 MB per second or 6,120 MB per hour of data. Every time you share something on Instagram or stream something on Netflix, you are creating data. Beyond that, your devices have the ability to track you physically. With that in mind, here are some of the biggest threats to your privacy and how you can protect yourself.

1. Location Tracking

One of the most obvious ways your devices are spying on you is by sharing your location. Some location services make sense. Google Maps needs to know your location to give you accurate directions or your Pizza Hut app might need your location to confirm delivery or carry out. However, it seems like just about every app wants permission to access your location these days. Oftentimes, it isn’t needed and could potentially put your safety at risk. Make sure to read the fine print when agreeing to location services. You can also shut off permissions in your settings.

2. Installed Application Methods

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Your Android may be snooping on you without your knowledge. Many developers use installed application methods or IAMs to see the data stored by other apps on your phone. Researchers explain that more than 50% of apps in the Google Play Store use IAMs. IAMs are usually used for debugging purposes and can be useful, but this information can also provide developers with intimate details about your life. For iPhone users, the same is true but in general, Apple has stricter privacy control policies than Android.

3. Website Cookies

Many of us are aware that our browsing history is tracked by stored cookies. When you visit a new website, you may have seen a pop-up asking you to accept that your cookies are being used. If you accept, your data and activity on that site are stored and can be accessed by the website operator. Cookies are most often used for targeted advertising. They also allow for your login information, shopping carts, and searches to be stored. You can always opt out of cookies when you visit a new site to keep your data safe.

4. Microphone and Camera Access

While your camera and microphone aren’t actively spying on you, they can be hacked. A red flag is if your camera light turns on when you’re not using it. Hackers can record you or listen in without your knowledge. The best way to protect yourself is to cover your camera when not in use, keep your anti-virus software up-to-date, and manage permissions to your camera with caution. One of the most notable cases of hacking involved Ring doorbells. The FTC settled a lawsuit this year with Ring “over charges the company allowed employees and contractors to access consumers’ private videos and failed to implement security protections, enabling hackers to take control of consumers’ accounts, cameras, and videos.”

5. Physical Security

Your devices have the keys to all your information. If you lose your smartwatch or cell phone, anyone could have access to sensitive details like passwords, schedules, and more serious info. It may sound like common sense, but using a lock screen password, face ID, or Touch ID on your devices could save you from trouble in the future. If you do lose your phone, you can use Find My Device if you have an Android. Find My iPhone is available for Apple users. You should also report your phone as stolen if it goes missing. This way, you can be proactive about protecting your information.

Your Devices Are Spying on You But You Can Take Control

In a world where privacy is never guaranteed, it’s important to protect yourself. Your devices are spying on you. Ultimately, the more data you share, the more vulnerable you will be. While it may seem impossible to keep a low profile, you can limit the amount of data you share. Just be sure to manage permissions, use strong passwords, limit cookies and data sharing, and always read privacy agreements.

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